Troubled Adolescent
When we talk of a troubled adolescent we often, but not always, mean an adolescent who is a behavior problem, one who is reacting to significant family problems, or an adolescent who is in serious trouble with the school or with the police.
One all too common reason, but not by any means the only reason, an adolescent is troubled is because of abuse or neglect. Alcohol or drugs may be involved.
It is often helpful for a trustworthy adult in authority to simply ask the young person directly what is bothering him. Assurance that he will be taken seriously and that help is available may be needed.
Being taken seriously and getting needed help though often means doing what the adolescent needs not what the adolescent wants. However, it always means being trustworthy in the delivery.
One adolescent may need comfort and support while another may need guidance and discipline.
The trustworthy adult in authority needs to discern which approach is appropriate and to apply it sufficiently.
Ann is 14 years old. Since school has begun for the second semester, she is sullen, moody, and stays largely to herself. This is quite different for Ann and her teacher notices. Ms. Brookes believes something is the matter, so she takes Ann to meet with the school counselor, Mr. Leonard. Ms. Brookes explains to Mr. Leonard and to Ann what she observes about Ann's behavior.
Ann squirms slightly, but does not volunteer anything. Mr. Leonard quietly but firmly asks Ann if she would like to take the risk to talk with Ms. Brookes and him. He assures her that they will listen carefully and take her seriously.
Ann divulges that over the break her parents announced they are planning to divorce. She is distraught, finds little meaning to her life, and is desperately trying to bring her parents together.
Mr. Leonard and Ms. Brookes offer comfort and support to Ann. There is little they can do directly to effect her parents' decision, but they can help Ann adjust to the painful and inevitable reality. With their caring approach during this semester, these trustworthy adults in authority help this troubled adolescent through this crisis.
Bob is 16, defiant, high much of the time, and rarely attends school. His single parent mother works outside their home and believes she has no influence on her son. She desperately wants help, but keeps silent about her concern.
Bob eventually comes to the attention of the justice system. His juvenile probation officer, Stewart, is an experienced fellow, understanding but resolute. Stewart knows that Bob needs to be held accountable; he also challenges Bob's mother to be assertive and clear in her expectations of Bob.
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