So You Want Me to Change?
You think I could treat you nicer; or could behave a little better; or could do something about my bad breath or sloppy hair. It's not like you want me to make a big change. I'd be so much easier to get along with, if only I'd make this one tiny change. Now is that asking too much? You bet it is!
No matter what I might do differently that you would like, or even that might make life better for me, I don't have to do it. I can still do as I please no matter how absurd, wrong, illegal, or stupid it is; and more than that, it doesn't make me a rotten person, worthless, lower than a worm! I remain as always a fallible human being (FHB).
Who, exactly, do you think you are to change me? If I have no power, control, or influence left in life, I can still at least do things that you may not like. Oh, yes, maybe it would be better all around if I don't do them, but that isn't the way it should, ought, must, have to work out every time.
Just as you can do nothing to guarantee control of my behavior, neither can I do anything to guarantee control of your reaction to my behavior. After all, you could simply accept it.
Isn't it nice when I change a behavior to suit you? I like that too, sometimes. What can you do when you don't get what you so very much want? And then you realize you aren't particularly likely to get it? Well, you might be wise to accept it. After all, isn't that better than making yourself miserable over something you can't control? Just because I do a provoking act, doesn't mean you have to agree to react by ruining your day.
But you could choose to end our relationship. That is a solution. You may be giving up some pretty important things in the process; but either way you choose you can make the best of it for your benefit.
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